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WOMEN. BLOODY ASKING FOR IT.

Ricky Nixon seems like a really top bloke.

After all, he didn’t have to enter a guilty plea.

He only did so to “protect” his family from “a protracted court case that would have affected everyone’s lives for months”.

nixonAFL agent Ricky Nixon, pleaded guilty to bashing former fiancee Tegan Gould. Image via SBS.
 

What a sensitive fella. You can’t help but feel sorry for him.

Nixon told Radio 3AW, he’s been “working tirelessly” to get on with his life.

I mean, his ex-wife paid for him to go to a psychiatric hospital. He didn’t beat her up so, obviously, this is a one-off, right? Still, he might have to cancel his upcoming comedy shows. And he doesn’t know whether he’ll get his agent’s licence back.

Oh, the injustice. The law is an ass. Look at poor Matthew Newton.

Four times he’s faced spurious assault allegations. Each time, he’s been given the appropriate penalty: community service.

It’s not because he’s rich and famous and has the best lawyers.

Like Ricky, he has mental health issues. This excuses him from any irrational behaviour, regardless of the consequences.

Where’s the compassion for our fellow man?

Take the case of UK comedian Justin Lee Collins. He pleaded not guilty to harassment.

Sure, the court heard he’d “subjected his former partner to physical, psychological and verbal abuse during the course of their relationship”.

But there wasn’t a scratch on her. The jury found him guilty. UN-BE-LIEV-ABLE.

Fortunately, the judge saw sense: community service instead of the clink.

This problem can be summed up in one word: feminazis. Whingeing bitches. Obviously not getting enough.

Like those hairy-legged lezbos ganging up on John Laws. Of course he had to ask that woman whether the sexual abuse was “her fault”.

Young girls can be very flirtatious, you know.

injure2I’m not the only one who thinks like this. On Twitter @Seat_V29 asks a pertinent question about Tegan Gould (pictured left, displaying her injuries): “What did she expect when she hooked up with a 48 y.o unstable alcoholic who f**ked up everything he touched? Play with fire…”

Bang on my friend, pardon the pun.

Another excellent point from @_elliottri: “Agree. Equality means women take some responsibility 4 bad relationships with bad guys.”

Yep. Some women are just asking for it.

Which is why the Victorian Premier should lay off the laws. Napthine wants to make it even harder for a guy to show a girl the back of his hand.

Jeez, how else are you expected to keep them in line?

Even the NSW police are behaving like wimps. They want “better training and tougher penalties” to deal with the 850 AVO applications every week.

I’ll tell you who they should crack down on: women making vexatious claims. Most of these applications would be utter bullshit. (I should know. My ex-wife made five.)

Tegan can’t be too scarred by her experience – she says she’s “happy” Ricky’s copped a slap on the wrist.

This victim impact statement should be filed under Fiction.

As for, “I have felt intimidated and lived in fear of him hurting me again”, well, boo hoo.
Save your tears for 60 Minutes, where you can “give strength to other women who are in violent relationships”.

I won’t be watching.

I’ll be shedding a tear – and having a beer – for the man whose life you ruined. Here’s to you, Ricky.

 

 

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*Tracey Spicer is a respected journalist who has worked for many years in radio, print and television.
Channel Nine and 10 news presenter and reporter; 2UE and Vega broadcaster; News Ltd. columnist; Sky News anchor …it’s been a dream career for the Brisbane schoolgirl with a passion for news and current affairs.
Tracey is a passionate advocate for issues as diverse as voluntary euthanasia, childhood vaccinations, breastfeeding, better regulation of foreign investment in Australia’s farmland, and curtailed opening hours for pubs and clubs. She is an Ambassador for World Vision, ActionAid, WWF, the Royal Hospital for Women’s Newborn Care Centre and the Penguin Foundation, Patron of Cancer Council NSW and The National Premmie Foundation, and the face of the Garvan Institute’s research into pancreatic cancer, which killed her beloved mother Marcia 11 years ago. But Tracey’s favourite job, with her husband, is bringing up two beautiful children – six-year-old Taj and five-year-old Grace. Visit Tracey’s website at www.spicercommunications.biz or follow her on Twitter @spicertracey.

 

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40 Comments

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Carz

    I know this is supposed to be satire but I have to admit I find it deeply disturbing.

    • Reply March 28, 2013

      Outback goddess

      I know so did I Carz. Do you think it was disturbing because while reading we knew it was the words of a woman? As I have heard similar words from (some) men on many an occasion.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Glenny

    I agree with Carz. I am very affected by this article. My life has been a disaster filled with illness both physical and mental due to growing up with the terror of a violent alcoholic father and a family filled with the dysfunctional effects.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Carolyn

    Beautifully done but print this in a newspaper and you would have a hundred comments agreeing with you.
    We have such a long way to go.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Wendy

    It’s sarcasm.. It’s not supposed to be funny. It is disturbing because the subject IS AND because it is so true. Well put Tracey .. Again.. And yes .. Some people would think you are serious … And that too is a worry.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    June Just

    This article is deeply disturbing because it does reflect the dangers that so many women face in their personal lives and that other men who are there to protect members of society against violence seem more concerned to protect men from the consequences of their actions in a court than showing that violence against women will be punished.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    awakenmama

    I didn’t read who it was written by before reading… wish I had. It is disturbing that these views are held by a revolting few – hopefully, few.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    elsa

    sarcasm or not , i spent a horrendous day in court yesterday and my partner was finally charged with assault , admittedly i am probably overtired and feeling incredibly sensitive (after wrangling a 3 year old into daycare who keeps crying for daddy) but i don’t think this particular piece works and yes i did get that it was sarcasm but you gals should know better , it didn’t translate well at all .

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    gee

    THIS is misogyny! THIS is the issue that should have the attention of our feminist media. These revolting men and the pathetic, suspect judiciary who enable those who abuse women and children are the ones who should be being dragged through the coals, not decent men who threaten your political team.

    ah Caffekey’s alleged murderer was on parole.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Nat

    Yep, more examples from Australian courts..
    “17-year-old victim “significantly contributed” to her sexual assault.” “Judge Peter Evans said that in general terms Glass had been “gentle” with the girl and had not been violent or threatened her”

    http://www.abc.net.au/news/2013-03-27/photographer-avoid-jail-after-assulting-teenage-girl/4597582

    Damn women, can’t you just lie back and think of England? Even if you don’t want to do it.. and what were you thinking about seeing a man alone?

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    bigwords

    Brilliant piece of writing Tracey. I just wish it wasn’t needed x

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Sandy

    Yep. Ricky Nixon. What a lad! Reminds me of an ex boyfriend who beat the living shit out of me because I went for drinks after a uni exam, rather than coming straight home to him. He went to a male psychologist who told him that he should congratulate himself on his self restraint because he had not actually killed me when he was so close to doing so! A win-win all round! I told my mum what happened and upon her reiterating the story to my sister, my mum said to her, “X beat Sandy and she didn’t even deserve it.”

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Melanie

    Good work Tracey. Any person who has looked at online comments, particularly on sites like Yahoo will find people just like this in forums. The misogyny spilling into the internet is appalling and makes one realise that there are people out there who positively hate women and see them as sex only objects. Slap on the wrist judgements against perpetrators of assaults on women make me wonder how seriously the law in this country views the female gender.. Anyone doubting the chauvinism in this country need look no further than the constant vitriol aimed at our PM…. the barrage of endless venom frequently aimed at ‘that woman’.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Bec

    Wow Sandy that final line from you (quoting your mum) sent a shiver down my spine. Says it all really.

    Well done Tracey. As confronting as your style sometimes it, you always nail it. Keep fighting the good fight.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    MadonnaofCoogee

    Very disturbing…. This is why we women must , must, must – no matter what our personal circumstances and no matter what their peer group says – must teach our young sons and daughters that violence has no place in their homes, in their relationships. We mothers must stand up and be strong. We must sit down with our children and say clearly and confidently: violence against women is wrong, and explain how it f***s up people’s lives. Show by example. The law doesn’t help obviously (see above). The media is two-faced, while porn and violence are being normalised by exposure to films and music vids etc. So, we must show by example. Rich or poor, harbourside mansion or housing commission, stand up and say, no more of this. 850 AVOs each week? OMG. We have to teach the next generations….

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Bev

    Put your name to this article at your own peril. So many people without your intelligence would think you were for women being beaten and abused. At first I thought you really were supporting this outcome. Hope I’m wrong.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Jen Jaehne

    I shouldn’t be but I’m still shocked & disgusted at the views some people have!
    Being a working mother I am appalled at the different ways women are treated in the workplace (and no, having a handful of well known executives doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist) but these vile things that believe women invite mental/physical & or sexual abuse – it is one of the most disturbing things we as a society have to deal with. Put very simply this is a very poor reflection on the males in our society (even though they don’t all hold those views)

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Victoria Thompson

    Women, fight back! Please go to Martial Art and Self-defence classes. And if anyone dares raise a hand to you, give them heaps! Use your voice, your fists and you feet. And anything else to protect yourself. There is nothing to lose but fear itself.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Carz

    I think what disturbed me most wasn’t the words themselves, but that they were in an article on the Hoopla. I have seen similar things said time and time again on a now defunct opinion site hosted by a major news organisation, and of course if you care to go looking on the internet (google Men’s Rights, or head to the mens rights reddit) you can find similar and worse. Much much worse.
    But the simple truth is that we don’t have to go past our own social circles to hear the same sort of things. Raise the topic of Grant Hackett, Matthew Newton or Matthew John to find out what people really think or feel. I survived years of emotion and sexual abuse at the hands of my husband. My kids and I are safe now but it isn’t something I can generally talk about because there are always these little nuggets of blame thrown out. Any wonder that violence against women by their intimate partners is still such a taboo topic.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    kyna62

    I found this piece disturbing because I’ve been that woman – the one who was abused by a “fine upstanding member of the community” that everyone we knew thought was a great bloke. In the court case after he broke in to my house with the intention of killing me, one of his character witnesses was a feminist politician who was usually outspoken on the issue of domestic violence. Surely she should have known better?

    My ex pleaded guilty to a lesser charge and received a suspended sentence. The police prosecutor – who was otherwise fantastic and extremely supportive – negotiated a plea bargain because he didn’t think I was up to the ordeal of a trial. I probably wasn’t, I still have PTSD over 15 years later.

    I think the other reason I found this piece disturbing was related to Poe’s law. Your satire didn’t go as far as the people who really do display that kind of mysogynistic attitude on the internet.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Rhoda

    Our neanderthal justice system is a big part to play in all this. All of us are aware of how many hurdles the victim of sexual assault have to face.

    In a case of rape a woman may be questioned about her sex life for the sole purpose of establishing that she is likely to have given consent. The past offences of a serial rapist on the other hand can’t be revealed to jurors.

    How does that not look as if our lives have less value than a man’s. And it totally gives the wrong impression – to lawyers, judges, jurors, the families looking on in the court room and the police who arrested the accused.

    And how many lawyers are politicians? How many of those are male?

    It reveals the male view of the female sex and how intensely misognist and primitive it is. We need more women in the corridors of power telling them so.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Tracey Spicer

    You’e not wrong with the phrase, “neanderthal justice system”. I am so saddened by the stories many of you have shared. My heart goes out to you. There is a veritable epidemic of domestic violence in the community. And yet many people – esp men – still believe it’s somehow the woman’s fault. This is why I wrote the piece as sarcasm/satire. I couldn’t believe some of the tweets I received when Ricky Nixon faced court. Two of those tweets are in my piece, but there were plenty more. It made me think, “Are there really people like this out there?” Sadly, the answer is, “yes”. I am so sorry if the tone upset you. x

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Kay

    It makes it very difficult for women to use a system that is meant to protect them from violence. Violence against women is a crime, and yet, the outcome of that crime is so variable. If you are a woman with very little resources, both financially and personally, it’s even harder. Violence is about the misuse of power to do harm, seems ‘the system’ can be as bad as the individual some times. Thankfully in Australia we do have services for women that will help you. Contact a family violence service if you are in a abusive relationship or thinking of going to court for an order.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Margherita Tracanelli

    Happy to be Deputy to any government Tracey Spicer decides to form. She has more steel balls than all the Claymore mines ever made put together.

    Oh and Trace
    and don’t pull it back, don’t apologise, Keep it real, sugar coating hasn’t worked.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    sue Bell

    Do any of you remember back in the 60s when the Catholic Church said it was better for a woman to die that to be raped?
    Little has changed.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Maureen P.

    All to well, Sue. Our school had a Maria Goretti Club. My god, can you believe that?

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Tracy

    SueBell I was told that in the 70’s in scripture class- Maria Goretti and her “forgiveness” as she chooses death before cooperating with her rapist. Fortunetly I found great support at home from my dad.

    So many good comments here.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Rhoda

    The Catholic church, any Christian church, teaches men should have authority in the household and women should submit graciously – that the role of a wife is to support her husband and make him successful. Not much difference between that and what they teach in the mosques.

    It’s a way to control and organize us. We became the subordinate sex. The state is complicit when it allows women to be exploited and abused. Reform of the law relating to sexual assault and rape is badly needed. It requires an entirely different approach.

    We’ve still a way to go before we can be free of the yoke that religion put round our necks.

  • Reply March 28, 2013

    Margy

    Actually Rhoda I think you are mis informed on the teachings of the Catholic Church. St Paul states that a husband should love his wife like Christ loved the Church. Therefore a husband should be prepared to lay down his life for his wife as that is what Christ did for His Church. I think it is very easy to take a line from scripture and blow it out of proportion but when you understand the whole scripture reference it challenges men and women to treat one another with great dignity and respect.

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Rhoda

    Margy, I mean no disrespect. I’m just putting it out there. I know there are good people in the Church and it’s not all bad.

    Paul did say that but he also demanded that if women wished to speak at a church assembly they should do so with veiled heads to indicate their continued secondary status in the order of creation (I Cor. 11:5)

    Googled it as I’m not up on the bible. But it’s not the teachings of a man from ancient history that is revelant here. It’s what is going on in the here and now. I would be more interested to know what support the Church offers women who are victims of sexual assault and rape and whether it is advocating reforms to the law.

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Lala

    I love satire and this worked for me, enough to make me do a mental double take after a couple of paragraphs. I get why to some people it could be hard to take though. To me, sometimes making fun of something and ridiculing it can be a powerful tool for change. Growing up in the UK in the 80s we had some excellent comedians who blasted racism in the cleverest way and it really made a difference. Somehow we need to be showing just how ridiculous the reporting, the commentary, politics are.

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Liz

    It all comes down to Consequences.

    Some people have parents that teach them about the consequences of their own actions.

    Some don’t. They have parents who love them, but who make life too easy for them.

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Rhoda

    Indeed it should come down to Consequences. And the consequence of rape and sexual assault should be prison for the attacker. But so often there is no consequence for anyone but the victim.

    Women should be marching in the streets. It’s time that a message was delivered.

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    DJ

    A taser to the genitals might help to keep all those violent, raping, blame-shifting males in line. Should be standard issue for all women.

  • Reply March 31, 2013

    ro.watson

    Leaving early is better than leaving too late. The emotional, psychological and spiritual scars of chronic abuse(if you are not dead) take a long time to heal~ not only what the abuser has done~ but what every one else around who knew or guessed what was happening did not do anything especially when she asked for help. Good effort Tracey~ but I don’t think you nailed it~ still I like your original approach. Have another go~ but with more stings!!

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  • Reply September 13, 2013

    Sue

    I’m not sure of the actual intent in this piece, is this sarcasm? Or actual belief?

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