THE DATING PROJECT #3. OFF WE GO!
Let the fun begin!
Rob Tiller and I spent the week sorting through the flood of volunteers for our Dating Project looking for two women who want to get serious about looking for a mate. We were looking for one woman in her 40s and another in her 50s to join Lou Lou, 34, writing weekly blogs about their dating adventures.
Along the way Rob and I will be their cheer squad offering advice and support.
It was a tough decision with so many wonderful women wanting to come on board. But the choice was finally made and we’d like to introduce Astrid and Iris – the new members of our dating team. (These are not their real names.)
Here’s Astrid, 45, from Sydney, telling us why she was just the right girl for the job:
“Oh my goodness, I have been reading The Hoopla since its inception. Then today I read the article about the Dating Project whilst I was supposed to be (and still am) writing a Management report for the Board… ho hum and I thought – ‘Pick me, no wait don’t pick me, no yes PICK ME ‘.
Why pick me? Well you said you wanted someone in their 40s… I am 45 so I fit the first criteria and I am a dating novice… since my divorce.
Here’s my story…
* 45-year-old single mother of 14 and 17-year-old daughters.
* I work full time as a Director of a Not for Profit Community Organisation.
* Separated from ex-hubby when girls were 2 and 5, divorced a long time now.
* Have been on one date years ago and it was just strange and felt wrong so I didn’t try again. Instead I got busy with the girls, work and study and made myself too busy to be “available”.
* In the Christmas holidays this year a few very well-meaning friends told me I needed to get out there and date, they put a profile together for me, I got lots of hits – but found it all very weird. I chatted to someone for a day then took down the profile never to be seen again. That was my foray into dating.
*Apparently I am awesome, funny, hot (very debatable), smart – have my ‘shit together’, so I have been told – so why am I single???
*On the issue of being single – I am happy, happy in my own skin, happy with the life the girls and I have created, I have fabulous, long-term friends, a great family, a really nice little cat and I am well regarded in my profession.
BUT as my girls get older I am starting to think having a companion, someone special, someone to love and someone that can’t wait to spend time with me would be great. Who am I going to ride my Harley with as I age, who is going to jump on planes and go to exotic places with me??? Who is going to rejoice with me when my grand babies are born and hold my hand when celebrating the triumphs and sorrows of my girls.
So if you have got to here and are still reading – I am keen, really keen yet slightly terrified but it’s time for this mum to dip her toe into the world beyond this life I have created around me… to see if I can make it through a date without boring someone to tears or wanting to leap through the bathroom window.”
And how did Astrid feel when she learnt she was one of the chosen ones?
“My first reaction when I heard your message last Wednesday was – ‘No, No, No…’ but deep inside I was happy, scared, excited. As I listened to message that day I had two staff in my office and apparently I sounded like I had won something huge, they thought I might have won lotto or something like that. When I told them they were so excited and can’t wait to follow the journey.”
Yes, we’re really excited too about watching what happens to Lou Lou, Astrid… and now here’s Iris, our third dating adventurer.
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