THE DATING PROJECT #16. PLAN B
A week is a long time in the world of internet dating, long enough for Lou Lou to meet a new man who has her weak at the knees.
But Eloise’s hot date from last week looks like he’s going to smother all life out of their budding romance. Never fear, she has Plan B firmly in hand with a date with Man #2 set for next week.
Astrid is resurfacing and plans to be back in action soon.
We’re advising her to try the male shotgun approach, sending out a spray of kisses in the hope that some reach the right targets. That way she’s bound to have some positive responses – far better than sending out one or two and just wishing and hoping that the men respond. She’s also promised to spend time searching for men who haven’t been active in the few weeks. Males listed as currently active are often being swamped with attention. So it’s better to look for men who have dropped below women’s radar a little, so the competition isn’t quite so tough.
Wish her luck. It certainly isn’t easy picking through the smorgasbord of men, particularly when so many have such very odd photos.
I’ve been pondering recently on why many older men seem to favour travel shots. You find yourself peering at a teeny, tiny figure of a man posed next to a very large Egyptian pyramid. Or trying to make out features hidden behind the sunglasses of the safari-suited visitor to the Tanzanian game park. Maybe they are keen to be seen as sophisticated men of the world?
Then it occurred to me that it probably speaks to the limited social network of many men, who may not have anyone to take photos of them in their normal lives, whilst there’s always a fellow tourist willing to take happy snaps on a vacation. Make sense, Rob?
By the way, we love our readers buying into some of these discussions. It is always interesting to hear what you all have to say about the quirks which emerge each week in the dating adventures.
Now here’s our surprisingly flustered Lou Lou:
Oh, hello… who are you?? No seriously. Where has the cool, sassy, sashaying Lou Lou gone? She seems to be replaced by this flustered, scatty flibbertigibbet. Let’s call her Franny Flibbertigibbet. (Alright I must stop speaking in the third person because when other people do, it ticks me off.)
So what’s going on, I hear you ask? Man #10 that’s what. It’s like he’s somehow cleverly found the way to remove the ‘cool chip’ from my motherboard.
On our first date, I go from a sashay to an over-strut as I walk over to say hello. He is hot.
And my body is compensating for the desire to stop and have a moment: Wow, this is finally happening, a guy I actually fancy!!
My mouth seems to be following the example of my over-strutting, enthusiastic hips. I can’t seem to get the words out. And when I do, I tell him ridiculously unimpressive things. What guy wants to know I’ve only ever had two successful, long-term relationships??
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14 Responses to this article
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The Huntress August 24, 2012
Go Lou Lou and hot man #10! I am so glad I’m not the only person who says idiotic things when they’re nervous. I cringe when I think of my first date with Mr. Huntress (I believe I accused him of being married with children because men like him didn’t get to his age being single. WTF!?! Massive cringe factor!)
I can understand the wariness of Eloise with man #1. While I do see how men can behave in downright bizarre ways when infatutated, I don’t think they realise how odd they come across to us ladies. I recently went out with a girlfriend for some drinks and as usual I was wearing leather gloves, so my wedding rings weren’t visible. Some fellow walked over plonked himself down next to me and declared that he only talked to pretty girls because he found ugly girls angry and defensive. I think if that was how he chose to try and get things going with women he would make most women angry and defensive – what is with these guys?!?
Oh yeah – they get nervous and say stupid stuff, just like us…
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sami August 24, 2012
Eloise- if he gets pushy just drop him. Some men are just like that, irrespective of age or history. As soon as it starts feeling like you’re babysitting him or sparing his feelings it is not an equal relationship and you’ll only spend time with him because of the guilt trip if you say no. You don’t need that. You need an adult!
Lou Lou for all you know Mr Hot Man may be feeling the same way! I would nearly throw up before each meeting (rendezvous? catch-up? date?) with the boyfriend when I first met him. And because it took a couple weeks for him to kiss me I was plagued with paranoia and butterflies and I was sure I kept saying stupid things. So I just told him that I was nervous, as a kind of caveat I suppose… that if I said something stupid or fell over my own feet it was because I liked him! Maybe tell Mr Hot Man that you’re nervous because you think he is great, it could dispel some of your anxiety.
If it makes you feel any better, my boyfriend will always remember our introduction- he tried to shake my hand but I awkwardly had to refuse as I had ‘spring roll grease’ all over my hands. Sigh. Classy lady!
My gosh Huntress, that’s the worst attempt at a compliment that I’ve ever heard! I really hope that line has never worked on a woman…
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The Huntress August 24, 2012
Haha, that’s not even the worst of it sami LOL It was the biggest job interview of my lifetime (I had just graduated as a Registered Nurse and was applying for a job at the hospital I desperately wanted to work) and I was asked if I would be interested in working in mental health. My reply?
“Oh, I love working in mental health, but I enjoy it for all the wrong reasons” *Insert charming smile here*
*Insert face palm that I should have done here*
I got the job.
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The Huntress August 24, 2012
AAAaannnnd I just realised sami was talking about the man, not me…*sigh*
I suffer foot in mouth disease.
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susan August 24, 2012
Is there a bit of a double standard here? It’s weird when Eloise’s Man#1 is nervous and keen but it’s cute when Lou Lou is nervous and keen with Hot Man? Haha, just saying!
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sami August 24, 2012
There’s a big difference between nervous/keen and pushy/needy!
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Sere August 24, 2012
YEEESSSS!
THAT’S WHAT I’M TALKIN’ ‘BOUT!
HIGH FIVE!
ETC
All this excitement is for Rob’s quotes about being friends in a relationship. LOVE IT!
Love his comments this week. My favourite comments from him. Touched my emotions.YOU GOT IT!-
rob August 25, 2012
Cheers Sere, really appreciate your positive support and feedback. I can walk a fine line balancing encouragement and advice for the women on their dating adventures. Sounds like I hit the nail on the head for you this week. I notice that you consistently keep up with the Dating Project–love your enthusiasm. Thanks again!
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BusiChic August 30, 2012
Online dating – omg yes, the photos!
As a streetstyle photographer who also takes professional profile photos I was FASCINATED by the types of photos up on online dating:
1. Here is me in a tux at a friend’s wedding- us one day?
2. Here is a selfie I took in my bathroom – see how clean I keep the shower behind me – oooh and look: full roll of toilet paper that you can judge me on too!
3. Selfie in the car – look, I wear a seatbelt!
4. Badly cropped photo where I kinda cut out my ex-girlfriend but shows that women have been interested me in the past, right?Needless to say, do not be discouraged! Turns out that my now partner was on the same online dating site as I was except I had a private profile so he couldn’t find me. And he was outside my “search” parameters – so maybe broaden that search
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rahim August 31, 2012
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