• Why do we women make millions of excuses for perfectly adult men who have bad behaviour?????? - Louise
  • Excellent piece, Tracey. The notion that a sixteen year old could somehow invite abuse, rape, violence... is preposterous yet we hear these tired old cliches regularly. Williams' foolish (and dangerous) comments reflect more on her than on the young victim and simply perpetuate ignorance and stereotyping. - Lee-Anne
  • I think that it's time society put focus on the perpetrators. If the stat is 1 in 4 women are sexually assaulted, then what is the stat on the % of men who sexually assault? We never hear this. That might change the focus of the discussion somewhat! - Pam Harrison
  • I would like to remind people that the ancient Greek word IDIOT, meant he who does not vote. - sue Bell
  • I could have died. I did not. Something kept me going. Spirit and all those brave other women as I have donesurvived rape and abuse by men. I didn't even talk about what had happened. Blurred it in my unconscious. When, finally, I did start talking about what had happened to me, I was shocked by "don't be so negative" and "I believe you were raped'(just don't go on about it). Slurping and swaggering as I do now across the polite boundaries of the un-nice~as I have done before~ as we have done before~ I suppose it depends on the circles you move in, as to whether or not, you are believed, recover, or whatever. So often we hear "get over it" like it is um, a mosquito bite. Just once,but what happened wasn't.. For many women ,like me, it is not just once. Do we need a dead body to feel something bad has happened here? I hope not , but that hope is belied by experience. I shut up from myself I barely knew what happened,these violations happened. As much as I originally wanted to respond like a Buddhist nun to the actuality and aftermath of these assaults, at least those nuns got believed. I was apparently too negative when all hell broke loose in my psyche and social situation. It took time for this to happen and there was no crowd control. There was no restorative justice here. Some may go to homilies, too bad, too sad. Restrain her. Be quiet. Stop being so negative. I have, from time to time, felt surrounded by idiots who know not what they do, but I also find that position hard to accept, after so many years of facing violence by against women. So I am still troubled about how far along the road we have got, in stopping violence and supporting the recovery of victims? - ro.watson
  • linda!!!! Brilliant comment. I'm with you on this 'gender card' nonsense. Wouldn't it be great to start a new progressive political party called 'Gender Card' or maybe it would be better as a movie. Wasn't there a movie called 'Green....' 'Gender' is the issue and 'gender card' is definitely a new political party and/or a new movie just waiting to happen. - helen b
  • Bloody hell! he is the one who should be leaving! Along the lines of "Get out of the house take a deep breath, call on the love you have for your family vs your job and try to come back in the door again! I will not be abused for your job troughs! If you don't recant, we are gone!" And if not... HE should leave... - Louise
  • Yes Tracey! Yes! It doesn't matter what the situation is, the victim is a victim who needs our help, hugs and support. As you say, Not. Their. Fault! - Lisa E
  • Great article Tracey. Excellent comments Ro! I still find it hard to believe that people are still making comments, holding opinions, which put the blame on the victim. Michele S...can you hear yourself? People, particularly in democratic nations outside war zones tend to assume they are safe from rape, violence and murder...anywhere! We need to get rid of this 'risk management of uncontrollable male sexual urges' philosophy! Thanks Hoopla for getting onto this one. Just goes to show how indoctrinated we are when we hear comments like Ms Williams! Wake up everyone! This is not a rehearsal! - helen b
  • I totally agree.I grew up in New England and so envy the voters there having Tony Windsor as their representative. Unfortunately I am now in Joe Hockey's electorate and feel that my vote is wasted. It''s a pity our electorates are based on where we live - if electorates were virtual I would vote for Tony Windsor. - Gayle Davies
 
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