• Last two rules rock it Mrs Woog. Our nail polish rule is a little more fluid...as long as its applied nicely and a neutral tone and you dont get detention for wearing it, its ok. We are an out and proud family and zero tolerance to judgey crap, all welcome in our home just ask you bring your manners and humour - Cstar
  • Miranda that's a sensational idea. I've put my full name up this time and can be found on Facebook. I'm also happy to put my email address. Just like Concerned, I used to think that life would be so much easier if my son had a physical disability as well. Not in any way to discredit how hard it is to look after anyone, let alone a child in that situation, but because it just seemed it would be easier. I begged for valium at one point for my son, just a small dose to calm him down and regain some control but it seemed that it was easier for doctors to say no to that rather than give some form of relief to the child and the rest of the family. He was on anti-psychotics for a while but they didn't help because he is not psychotic. Rhoda you're idea about parenting resources is a good one, but only for ADD and ADHD. Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Conduct Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder (which is what they call ODD when they turn eighteen), are totally different animals. These children have a neurological problem within the brain where the signals just don't get through or are totally blocked to different parts of the brain. These children are born this way, they don't grow into it though in some circumstances of parenting or familial problems can make it worse. Because of the anger, violence and abuse issues there is no form of respite either because the risk of someone else being hurt is too high and no agency will risk it. If anyone does want to make contact, here's my email: t_forbes64@hotmail.com I'll check out Facebook....perhaps a support and resource page might be of help too. Just knowing there are others going through the same thing and you won't be ridiculed for what you say and you will be believed can be a help. - Tracey Forbes
  • What relentlessly distressing stories some of the respondents have to tell. Their problems don't sound like they're caused by lack of diagnosis or increased rates of prescription - rather show need for more community support, better training of social workers, police, journos etc. Just wonder how much contact Concerned and others have with parents in similar situations - and if there's some of way of putting you all in touch with each other - if you're interested? - miranda
  • It seems we should love your rules, but not our neighbours, if they are are those of people who disagree with our "tolerant" view of peoples sexual preferences. Morality and other such obselete values ought not to come into it. Besides "loving your neighbour" is for those intolerant Christian suckers. - Na Yeo
  • It's OK Sue Bell , John Jay has obviously been " away " again . He craves attention , so if we just ignore him he will no doubt wander back to his " right wing hate sights " like Bolt & Ackerman et al. Meanwhile John Jay , suggest nice cuppa and a lay down . - Carole/m
  • Sly Place has just about said it all on Rudd's narcissism. I'd only add that he can't pretend to be naive about the effect his outbursts have had on Labor. And if it was a former staffer who changed Rudd's mind on gay marriage, pity he didn't listen when the bloke was actually employed in his office. - miranda
  • Does Australia have parent training resources? I've read that parent training is helpful in managing the behaviour. - Rhoda
  • Woah Sally, this article is intended as a catalyst for discussion, not a comprehensive analysis. I think that in a short space Lucy has raised several elements of an extremely complex debate. I've worked as a high school teacher and I've noticed many cases where a teenager " becomes" their diagnosis and uses it as a shield that prohibits self reflection and responsibility for ones own behaviour. A la " I've been diagnosed with ADHD I can skip work/ play up/ leave the room whenever like. Rently I confronted an aquaintance who thought it totally fine to repeat personal information she'd been told in confidence. Her reasoning " I've got ADHD you know" Likewise the wife of a friend who errupts in ferociously violent and abusive rages... people's reaction to her behaviour sometimes goes along the lines of " maybe she's bypolar" How about the " depressed" man who kills a random stranger? Or the " depressed" footballer or politician acting like rascals? Sure, genuine mental illness is out there and it should be taken very seriously, medicated where this can improve immediate functioning. But there's a growing trend to label what s simply obnoxious intolerable bahaviour as a " mental illness" . - melissa
  • I used to be the type who would sit on top of the heater; freeze to death in winter; and lived in (then) skivvies and jumpers. Then the big M set in!! Now I wander around the house barefoot. I own1 jumper and 1 thick cardigan. The only difference in what I wear to work is I have a raincoat and scarf for winter .... otherwise exactly the same clothes all year around. That's your "internal heater" working for you ... - Schoom
  • My son was 17 when his girlfriend first slept over. We made up an extra bed for her so she had a choice where to sleep. I didn't assume that they would or wouldn't sleep together. It also gave her an option, during the night, if she felt uncomfortable, to sleep somewhere else, plus he snores occasionally. She never used the extra bed and eventually we stopped making it. I'm always amused that people think their kids would only have sex ,in a bed, at night. These parents seem to be ok with their son/daughter being alone with a friend after school because it's daytime - hysterical! - Helen
 
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ROBERT HUGHES. CHAMPION

Robert Hughes had many, many gifts and one of them was the gift of exquisite timing.

It’s no surprise then that as his last, magnificent act he should pass away during the Olympic Games.

 

“The new job of art is to sit on the wall and get more expensive.” Robert Hughes, July 28, 1938 – August 6, 2012

Since his near-death in a car accident near Broome in May 1999 Hughes was often branded as just about the worst thing an Australian could be – an elitist.

He knew however that secretly, Australians actually love elitism.

But only in sport.

“Sportsmen have to be the best of the best. Imagine,” he said to me years ago, “if I swam in the Olympics. No-one would turn up. It’d be a scandal. A joke.”

But if you were an elitist in the world of ideas… things were radically different.

For example, when Bob received a standing ovation at a debate a week before the November 1999 Republic Referendum, one of the “no” speakers, Tony Abbott, couldn’t hide his contempt. “The rest of us won’t be able to watch things unfold from the safety of New York,” he sneered.

His TV series Beyond The Fatal Shore in 2000 – a six-part examination of Australian society and culture; how it changed and how it steadfastly remained the same after he had left for Europe in 1964 – was more ammunition for all the second-raters who saw him as a pugnacious and acerbic cultural elitist.

“I hate TV. I never watch it,” he said. “But I like to try to make TV I can watch without a sense of embarrassment. One of the things that used to bother me slightly in the days before I fully, completely and ecstatically embraced my own filthy elitism, was reconciling the contradiction between my dyspeptic view of broadcast TV and at the same time liking to do TV.

“Well I don’t think there’s any contradiction at all, much the same as there’s no contradiction in not liking genuinely stupid and illiterate books and at the same time wanting to write your own book.”

The Robert Hughes “call me Bob” that I had the rare privilege of knowing was a man of tremendous generosity with a massive appetite for life.

He had an engaging, immediate, up-to-the-elbows involvement with the world.

He never completed his law, arts or architecture degrees at Sydney University. Rather, he swanned around the quadrangle in a black duffle coat, smoking gold-tipped Sobranies cigarettes, chatting up blond private school girls from Vaucluse with earnest talk of Ronald Firbank.

He also carried a copy of Jean-Paul Sartre’s Being and Nothingness, “of which I could not read a word, since it was in French. Sometimes I would take out Sartre and lay him on the formica table in the pub, and then place the Sobranies on top, like the cherry on an ice-cream sundae.”

Hughes ditched the foppish, academic world preferring to work as a cartoonist, an artist and an art-critic.

He left Australia for Europe in 1964 and then in 1970, he was appointed art critic for Time Magazine. He moved to Manhattan. In 1979, he wrote and presented the seminal television series on modern art, Shock Of The New, taking up the mantle of internationally renowned cultural commentator from Kenneth Clark, author of the 1969 series, Civilisation.

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6 Responses to this article

  1. K August 9, 2012 Reply
     
     

    I wish I had paid more attention to Mr Hughes … now I will make an effort to visit his legacy……..Australia is SO in need of Tough old art critics…….

     
  2. sam August 9, 2012 Reply
     
     

    Goya- Crazy like a genius, Shock of the New, American Visions. Wonderful.

     
  3. Brendan August 9, 2012 Reply
     
     

    Vale Bob, called it as he saw it and lucky for us , as he saw it …boy, did he what! It’s hard to argue against your claim of Australia’s greatest ever thinker and writer as his musings and insights cut to virtually every aspect of culture the ‘elites’ hold dear often with shredding effect. As far as being an ex-pat goes, it seems kinda necessary that to be arguably the world’s leading art critic you’d not be doing it from Downunda in much the same way no-one would expect our best soccer players to be choosing Cental Coast Mariners over the English or European Leagues and besides, perspective is defined by distance. Great article.

     
  4. Wendy Harmer August 9, 2012 Reply
     
     

    I remember reading Shock of the New and regarded it an an exhortation to broaden the mind. Hughes’ mind was as big as a whole planet. You are lucky to have known him, Duncan and thanks for this article and your excellent description: ” He had an engaging, immediate, up-to-the-elbows involvement with the world.” Memorable.I won’t forget that.

     
  5. Ro. Watson August 9, 2012 Reply
     
     

    Robert Hughes also wrote that book on Art in Australia~ I cannot remember the exact title~ and the telly show on the ABC on the same subject~ a wonderful and illuminating gift of the gab.

     
  6. Valerie Parv August 9, 2012 Reply
     
     

    If thinking were an Olympic sport, Robert Hughes would have won gold, even if he didn’t think so. He, along with Clive James and Stephen Fry are three of the most fascinating minds of our times IMO.

     

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