This story begins with my husband telling me that he had been back in contact with an ex-girlfriend and it was suggested they meet up for lunch.
I have to say it was unexpected, but it did lead to a conversation that went a little like this:
I said: “Sure, when are we going?”
He said: “So, you want to come?”
I said: “Yeah, it would be weird otherwise….don’t you think?”
He agreed and set about organising a catch up.
As you do, we told a few friends and some family about the situation, which is where the lines started to blur. Apparently, it would seem that other people think the whole situation is weird.
So that got me thinking… is it weird? What makes it weird? Am I naive, or is it their insecurities that make them think that way?
What is my take on the situation? Well, I am in a very stable and loving relationship. I have no fear of him straying and can’t quite understand what the issue is.
Actually, yes, I do kind of get it.
With that said, I also wouldn’t lose any sleep over it. Our bond is strong, our love is deep, so why would I worry about such a simple thing as catching up with an old friend of his – who happens to be an ex?
Is it really odd, that he would like to catch up with someone that, at one point in his life, he was very close to? Or is the fact that he would want to catch up with someone who he was once very close to the odd thing?
A couple of things you should know before you answer:
- My husband was her first ever boyfriend
- They were together for approximately 2 years, so it wasn’t a flash in the pan
- They were young
- It has been about 20 years since they were together
- We have just celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary
- We have a 4 year old son
- The last time they saw each other was 15 years ago (apparently I met her back then whilst hubby was “courting me”, but we can’t remember meeting)
- My husband saw her in a local shopping centre and was the one who sought her out via social media
- She is single
By the way, I did go to the lunch – I knew you were dying to know!
On the plus side, I thought she was lovely. It did feel a little odd and yet we settled into a conversation very easily. I personally think my husband has great taste in women. Luckily for me, he chose the right one!
On the weird side, my husband has great taste in women, and, she did openly admit to wanting to be in a relationship with a great guy.
So I put it to you, do you think it is weird?
Would you go there?
Rebecca Thompson began the blog ‘Take Charge Now’ after suffering with an ongoing illness for over 10 years. After a succession of doctors, specialists and a vast amounts of money, she finally was diagnosed with a number of food chemical intolerances and environmental allergies. The Blog began as a way to document her journey of trying to take charge of her life, design a new lifestyle and reclaim her life. You can find her blog here , or follow her on Twitter at TakeChargeBecc.
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