HONOUR MY WOMANHOOD?
One of life’s pleasures is to get a professional massage.
I adore getting a massage and always think, “Why don’t I get these more regularly?” but due to time and fiscal restraints, they are more of a “special occasion” pursuit than an up-keeping exercise.
Brushing your teeth is an up-keeping exercise. Using deodorant is an up-keeping exercise. Having a shower is an up-keeping exercise. Laying butt naked in a dimly lit room with the artificial sounds of rainforest drifting from a sound system while someone pummels your back with scented oil is a special-occasion pursuit.
Oh, but I wish it wasn’t!
Which makes me think of a massage I had last week. A hot rock massage in fact, which left me as limp as a noodle and my mind on high alert after the masseuse suggested I needed to “Honor my Womanhood”.
This particular masseuse, I suspect, was a distant relation of The Dalai Lama.
He was dressed in a loose white top and loose white pants and surprisingly, a pair of bright yellow crocs. I know this as my head was stuck in the massage table hole, so I got to look at his shoes a lot. He worked silently and, according to him, instinctively. I slipped into my usual massage coma, which was to allow a small rivulet of drool to escape the corner of my mouth and to emit small moans.
Dead sexy.
As the massage drew to an end, I started to panic a bit. I did not want it to stop! I tried to fully appreciate every stroke of his large, soft hands and almost wept when he declared that the treatment had been completed, and would I like a cup of fancy spa tea. (The type that smells like the water you empty into the sink from a vase after you throw the dead flowers out).
I declined, and instead asked him what his instincts told him when it came to my good self.
The masseuse sat down on a chair as I lay there in my post-treatment bliss, and looked me in the eye. He spoke of how my body was abuzz with nervous energy and that I had to commit to being still and present. He said that this state was very common for women, who take on too much mentally and do not know how to prioritise their wellbeing over the needs of others.
Well hello! Tell me something I don’t know…
And he did.
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13 Responses to this article
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Nikki @ Styling You July 18, 2012
I think he means more massages. Well, that’s what I’d be telling myself.
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KultchaQueen July 18, 2012
I think it means prioritising some time for you. A time each day, even just 15 minutes, where you don’t think about (or feel guilty about) washing, housework, homework, kids, lunches, dinner etc. Where you get to clear you mind, day dream if you want, meditate if you want, just be still (internally and externally). I work full time, have 3 kids and a great husband. Life is busy! But it took until my late 30′s to realise that I’m a much nicer, less stressed person if I can spend some quality time with me! Everything in my life is better if I’ve had my one on one time with me!
Although there that doesn’t mean it couldn’t be found during a massage!
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Sarah Watts July 18, 2012
Definitely means more massages or pampering in general
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Lisa@RandomActsOfZen July 18, 2012
Put yourself first more often, us mums are so hard on ourselves.
I was given the same advice during a massage a couple of weeks ago, had let stress get to me in a big way and my health really suffered.
It only takes a few minutes a day to just sit and be still, and a pamper or good cup of coffee by the beach doesn’t hurt either xx -
Ro. Watson July 18, 2012
I wonder about your masturbation question~ honouring your womanhood~ if he had anwered yes to that question~ how would you have felt?! Anyway I agree about honouring massage pathway….not sure about hot rocks unless they are in a place like New Zealand…. .
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sam July 18, 2012
I have to say I would probably be suspicious of anything someone who was wearing yellow crocs said, but I do think the odd minute devoted to just being me sounds like a great idea, infact at the moment I might even settle for a second
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Em July 18, 2012
So funny re your instinctive response to his statement. Made me splutter
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alison July 18, 2012
Are you sure he wasn’t just trying to sell you more massages? I reckon it was a soft sell. I’m surprised he didn’t mention that your chakra/s were all out of whack and weekly hot rock massages the only solution.
But I agree with all of the above- more time to do less- we could all do with a bit of that, and it’s free.
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sue bell July 18, 2012
I Have .
no idea how to honour my womanhood. The thing I did best as a woman was breast feeding and no matter how much I honour the five years I devoted to breastfeeding, it still does not get me a job even if I put it on my resume.
That dreadful tinkley rainforest music, which isn’t real music in any sense of the word, instantly makes me tense and angry, this needless to say defeats the purpose of the massage.
I think I have decided to honour my resilience as a woman. -
Kelly Exeter July 21, 2012
I think he’s definitely pitching for more massages
but on a serious note, I think he was telling you to continue to take time out for yourself … Regularly -
Mumabulous July 21, 2012
Well lucky, lucky you getting a massage. All it get is a brief half-hearted rub accross the shoulders from Dadabulous when he is feeling particularly appreciative. If it were me on that massage table I would have fallen asleep. Heck – I almost fell asleep on the quad machine at the gym. As for honouring your womanhood – you do that with each load of washing.
Respect
mumabulous@mum-abulous.com -
Van Essa July 22, 2012
I don’t think it’s a womanhood issue as such, I believe it is an individual issue. We all must honour our spirit and find what makes our soul sing. This means finding joy in something and then making time to experience this joy on a regular basis. For me it’s the beach and playing music – on some wonderful days I get to do both at the same time.
As women, we often fall into the trap of becoming all things to our family – cook, cleaner, washer woman, lover, mother, negotiater – and it’s hard to find time for ourselves. However, taking time for ourselves and doing what makes us most happy makes us…happy and much nicer to be around.
