Is this woman a total idiot? Or does she have a point?
Personally, I think she’s a total idiot.
Samantha Brick and French husband Pascal Rubinat. Photograph via Daily Mail.
Samantha Brick says that because she is tall, slim, blonde and pretty most females she meets are jealous. She claims to have been shunned in social circles, disadvantaged in the office and has never been invited to be a bridesmaid.
“I find that older women are the most hostile to beautiful women — perhaps because they feel their own bloom fading,” she writes in the UK Daily Mail.
“Women have always measured themselves against each other by their looks rather than achievements — and it can make the lives of the good-looking very difficult.”
Yep, Samantha is doing it tough.
I wouldn’t even bother with this story, except that I was born with a bi-lateral cleft palate and lip – a disadvantage in the looks department, you’d have to say – and my younger sister is a raving beauty.
My sister Helen is quite, quite stunning. A doppelganger for Sophia Loren. (On a trip together in Paris to she was trailed after by adoring multitudes shouting: “Sophia, Sophia”.)
Yes, grown men swoon in her presence and always have.
All her life my sister has fielded the bottles of champagne and suggestive notes from men, just as described by Ms Brick: “On a recent flight to New York, I was delighted when a stewardess came over and gave me a bottle of champagne.”
‘This is from the captain — he wants to welcome you on board and hopes you have a great flight today,’ she explained.
“You’re probably thinking ‘what a lovely surprise’. But while it was lovely, it wasn’t a surprise. At least, not for me.
“While I’m no Elle Macpherson, I’m tall, slim, blonde and, so I’m often told, a good-looking woman. I know how lucky I am. But there are downsides to being pretty — the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks.”
“I’m not smug and I’m no flirt, yet over the years I’ve been dropped by countless friends who felt threatened if I was merely in the presence of their other halves. If their partners dared to actually talk to me, a sudden chill would descend on the room.”
Now the thing is, my sister, despite (because of?) her own physical blessings is the LAST person in the world to judge the appearance of another.
Fat, thin, grey-haired, bad clothes, chipped nail polish… she DOES NOT SEE!
I have never, ever seen her run her eyes from top to toe in that instant inventory many woman take.
Instead, she seeks out your eyes, takes your arm and delivers a million-volt smile. Vivacious, kind, loyal and with a wicked sense of humour, she is surrounded by a legion of devoted friends.
Sometimes I have wondered whether she developed this divine personality so she is not judged on her looks alone, but I don’t think that’s quite right. Maybe she was born with it. I’m pretty sure it wasn’t Maybelline.
At other times I have thought that perhaps her beauty has been a handicap because it has blinded some men to her true potential as a very clever businesswoman (which she is).
But mostly, I don’t see what she looks like either. It’s her warm and wonderful presence and unwavering support that has given me strength all my life.
She is living proof to me that physical beauty is neither a handicap nor an advantage. Beauty is as beauty does.
And, I can honestly say, that every one of my female friends is a goddess.
Learning from my beautiful sister, I have long ago put aside any judgement on their physical appearance and can look to the light within.
It takes a beautiful person to teach you that.
For her part, Ms Brick has been stunned by the response to her article and writes this.
And for a deeper discussion on the issue about the UK Daily Mail’s motivation, you can also go here.