There is an old Native American parable.
“I feel as if I have two wolves fighting in my heart,’ a grandfather tells his grandson. ‘One wolf is vengeful, angry and violent. The other is loving and compassionate.”
“Which wolf will win the fight?,” the grandson asks.
“The one I feed,” the grandfather answers.
So it is with forgiveness. We’ve all been hurt, slighted or wronged by our enemies, or worse, by our lovers. The way we react defines the health of our relationship.
If we hold on to the hurt, it will turn to anger, resentment and sometimes violence. If we let the hurt go, we ...