Here's a head up, Hooplarians ... John Jay is the alter ego of the erudite but bitter Jack Richards, a man whose hate knows no bounds and who has a shrine to Kylie Minogue. Don't you Jack? He is being his usual ahole self, impersonating a kind gentleman who has a deep connection to God. It's not funny or clever. You just show, once again, that you are damaged beyond belief and should see a shrink about your problems. - Grow Up Jack
Sadly, its all about respect! I believe that this kind of bullying is rife in Australia and to kick the underdog is the norm. As for respect for mothers, we are still harassing women who breast feed their babies!!!
Thank you Tara for saying it all so eloquently. - YVONNE
This letter is just about showing good manners. If they showed this thoughtlessness to their friends, they wouldn't have any. So why treat your parents so shabbily? - PG
That's so sad. I have five children and nineteen grandchildren, spread over 350 kms. We have a family group on facebook where all the adults and the older grandchildren communicate regularly. We have family get togethers for Christmas and mid year as well as special occasions and everyone (including grandchildren and their boyfriend/girlfriend come). They are just fun family bbqs and everyone brings food and drink to share. I know in time, they will drift apart and form their own family groups, but they will have a good grounding.
Your family is what you make it. - Marnie
He must really be worried that he' s going to lose his seat! - Glynnis Henderson
That would be great. There is a Facebook group I am part of, I found it by desperately searching one night because you do feel so alone! https://www.facebook.com/?q=#/groups/130773080382056/?ref=ts&fref=ts
We mainly go there to ask for advice and support as many of us feel abandoned and helpless. - Concerned
Thank you Benison. I too get sick of people claiming ADHD is not a real condition and that it's the environment, diet, poor parenting etc. Parents of children with other disabilities get support and compassion but I have found ostracism, criticism and nasty comments. - Concerned
Last two rules rock it Mrs Woog.
Our nail polish rule is a little more fluid...as long as its applied nicely and a neutral tone and you dont get detention for wearing it, its ok.
We are an out and proud family and zero tolerance to judgey crap, all welcome in our home just ask you bring your manners and humour - Cstar
Miranda that's a sensational idea. I've put my full name up this time and can be found on Facebook. I'm also happy to put my email address. Just like Concerned, I used to think that life would be so much easier if my son had a physical disability as well. Not in any way to discredit how hard it is to look after anyone, let alone a child in that situation, but because it just seemed it would be easier. I begged for
valium at one point for my son, just a small dose to calm him down and regain some control but it seemed that it was easier for doctors to say no to that rather than give some form of relief to the child and the rest of the family. He was on anti-psychotics for a while but they didn't help because he is not psychotic. Rhoda you're idea about parenting resources is a good one, but only for ADD and ADHD. Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Conduct Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder (which is what they call ODD when they turn eighteen), are totally different animals. These children have a neurological problem within the brain where the signals just don't get through or are totally blocked to different parts of the brain. These children are born this way, they don't grow into it though in some circumstances of parenting or familial problems can make it worse. Because of the anger, violence and abuse issues there is no form of respite either because the risk of someone else being hurt is too high and no agency will risk it. If anyone does want to make contact, here's my email:
I'll check out Facebook....perhaps a support and resource page might be of help too. Just knowing there are others going through the same thing and you won't be ridiculed for what you say and you will be believed can be a help. - Tracey Forbes
What relentlessly distressing stories some of the respondents have to tell. Their problems don't sound like they're caused by lack of diagnosis or increased rates of prescription - rather show need for more community support, better training of social workers, police, journos etc.
Just wonder how much contact Concerned and others have with parents in similar situations - and if there's some of way of putting you all in touch with each other - if you're interested? - miranda