• I think many women's rape stories get twisted by others no matter what they do. Not being believed would be the worst. - katie
  • Last week, when the criminal record of Meagher's killer was made public, everyone seemed amazed person like him could be out of prison. While I was disgusted he was free, I wasn't surprised and it's because of attitudes like the ones Tracey describes. As a society we place blame on the victims of sexual assault, and therefore mitigate the responsibility of the attacker. There is some underlying idea that men are unable (or unwilling) to control themselves, which is rather insulting to the vast majority of men who do act decently. As I was buying my morning coffee today I was scanning the front of the paper and read the story of Milne's arrest for rape. The barista noticed and I said it was interesting the arrest had happened so long after the crime. The barista asked what did the girl expect, going back to some guy's hotel room. You hear stuff like this whenever these topics come up. Having no desire to start a fight with a virtual stranger I just replied that I had had people I didn't really know sleep at my house in the past and not once did I find it necessary to rape them. I will be buying my coffee elsewhere in the future. - kage
  • Thank you Germaine for the article. I do not need to be persuaded to vote for the PM and not just because she is a woman, but because she is a leader, a leader under extremely difficult and distressing circumstances; a leader with vision; sometimes having to compromise and take a smaller step forward than envisaged, however, any step forward in policy and reform is a step in the right direction. I try to use my voice against shock jocks on stations I despise, just to get up their noses, and get totally put down and ridiculed when objecting to their tactics, BUT Germaine YOU have a voice and a voice to be listened to. Please use YOUR VOICE as well as your writing skills to spread this message. - Vickie
  • Sometimes I just want to give up and call everyone who does not get how wrong such assaults are pigs. - ro.watson
  • Given that i wish to see the continuation of carbon pricing and allied green policies, the roll out of the (real) NBN, the funding of the NDIS and the Gonski education reforms, i have no hesitation in voting Labor on September 14th. I will be extremely happy to see PM Gillard retain her position. - sally b
  • Show me your policies Tony Abbott. I judge Gillard on her strengths already, not as some putative enduring barricade against the shock jocks here or there, Germaine. - ro.watson
  • This is so much like my own story. I have so much trouble getting people to understand, even 6 years after separation that he will always be the father of my kids, that he is deserving of respect, even if he has not been the best husband, that I cannot live with him, I do not feel romantic any more but I want him to be the best person he can be because my kids love him and he is their hero, no matter what I say. And I worry so much about the kids and I hope they don't grow up without the skills for a beautiful relationship. So I hope all goes well. I look forward to seeing how you manage. - Bron
  • But to vote for someone just because they are a woman is as flawed as voting for someone just because they are a man. The key point in Germaine's article for me was that we need to start focusing on policies and not personalities. - Pea
  • The best way to defeat this disgusting attack on Julia Gillard is to support her re-election. If she were to succeed in being re-elected it would send a powerful message to her bigoted detractors. Would certainly put a lot of twisted bitter people back in their proper place. - JohnB
  • I'm a big fan of classical music and rap, maybe it's because i'm from the ipod generation but i don't see why it has to be one or the other. I totally understand not liking rap, but that doesn't mean it has no value. Maybe it's unfair to specifically target Mandy's article, because this is one of many articles reinforce a myopic view of misogyny in music by specifically using rap as an example when it is in all genres, but i felt the readership of the hoopla is intelligent and considered enough to consider my point, which is the double standard when it comes to criticism of misogyny in music. Rap is a genre created by black people and has clear connotations towards it, and this article isn't without context. I realise it was unintentional but it reinforces negative stereotypes about rap, and by extentsion black culture. One doesn't have to mention race for it still to be relevant to the discussion. I am in complete agreement with her otherwise. Anyway I feel i've made my case and it's for others to judge whether i'm right or not. I don't want to continue this because i don't want to diminish the point of this article, which is that we as a society don't take rape a tenth as seriously as we should. That i'm sure is something that you and i can agree on Tony. - Ash
 
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5 RULES FOR COMFORT DRESSING

Over a work lunch recently, I was talking to a couple of women about comfort dressing.

 

Find comfort in chunky knits and slouchy pants…  Chloe 2012 Autumn/Winter Collection.

Correction: one of them was talking about how much she wished she could wear her pyjamas to the office and I was trying to understand why. It’s no secret that I enjoy getting dressed (most mornings, anyway), and even on days I work from home I couldn’t imagine slobbing around in a tracksuit.

That’s not to say that I’m prancing around my loungeroom in my Jimmy Choos, but there are ways of balancing style and comfort.

After that lunch, I started thinking about pyjama-free comfort dressing for the office and whether it’s possible to create the psychological effect of a dressing gown, without giving your colleagues cause to question your sanity. Then I realised that I have my own version of comfort dressing, particularly on Fridays, the day my inclination towards dressing up tends to hit a weekly low.

 

The outfit above is a good example and pretty well sums up my rules for feeling much more relaxed than I look.

Rules, you say? Well, since you asked, here they are:

1. Wear cashmere. Always a worthwhile investment, it feels luxurious and rich, particularly if you tell yourself that you’re “swathed in cashmere”. No-one could ever be a slob when they’re swathed in anything. Obviously this is a winter-specific rule; the summer equivalent would be crisp cotton – it’s all about having something that just feels good. My knit is by J. Crew (the T-shirt is Proenza Schouler) but I also love this floral silk and cashmere knit by DKNY.

2. Ditch the denim. It’s too obvious – nothing says, “I’m feeling slobby” like a pair of boyfriend jeans. And while dark denim looks more polished, it can have a stiffness that is very much not about being comfortable. A pair of slim-cut chinos or capri pants in tan or grey will keep your comfort level a closely guarded secret. Mine are by Country Road, but J. Crew also make an excellent pair.

3. Incorporate a trend. It suggests that you know what’s going on and have made an effort to stay up to date (when you know it was an effort just getting to the office by nine. Ok, maybe 9.15). A pastel knit is my big nod to the season but this one by Carven combines pastel and peplum for double the trend love.

4. Choose your most comfortable heels. It can be tempting to forego heels altogether but I find that just stepping into them can often give me a psychological lift that no pair of ballet flats can hope to match. Just in case, I’ll choose a comfortable pair with a block heel, like these ones by Preen X Aldo Rise. Wedges, like these ones by Belle by Sigerson Morrison, will also do the trick.

5. Add a statement accessory. See point number 3: it suggests an effort is being made. Chunky bangles are an easy fix (mine are by Dinosaur Designs and Pamela Love) but I also love this bejewelled necklace by Marni, so fabulous over a simple T-shirt or sweater.

What are your tips for looking polished when you’d rather be in bed?

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*Michelle Bateman is a freelance writer and editor who blogs about fashion, beauty and the arts on The Modernity Project, as well as contributing to Australian Vogue, Women’s Health, Harper’s Bazaar and Emporium, among other titles. When not testing new lipsticks (and the occasional gloss), she can be found rearranging her wardrobe in a perpetual quest for more space. This season, she is enjoying mixing patterns and clashing colours; she has always been a sucker for a good leopard print.

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8 Responses to this article

  1. Pete July 25, 2012 Reply
     
     

    Or for those of you without the clothing budget the size of a small African nation’s GDP there’s …

     
  2. Sharon July 25, 2012 Reply
     
     

    Don’t wear heels. Instantly comfortable.

     
  3. Mumabulous July 25, 2012 Reply
     
     

    I know a thing or two about comfort dressing..

     
  4. Denise July 25, 2012 Reply
     
     

    I am with you Pete, fashion advice for those would love cashmere but can only afford polycotton please?!

     
    • Michelle @ The Modernity Project July 25, 2012 Reply
       
       

      Hi Denise, it’s all about sharing ideas and inspiration, and the suggestions I’m making here can translate to almost any budget. Target, Kmart and Sportsgirl are all doing some really great knits this season and if cashmere isn’t in your budget then cotton or wool feel good and look great, too!

       
  5. The Huntress July 25, 2012 Reply
     
     

    When I want to dress for comfort I pull out my black jersey knits. Easy to wear in Summer with high black Mary-Janes and a slash of red lipstick or warm it up in Winter by adding black tights and a leather jacket. A statemet jewellery piece is always a must as it instantly lifts an outfit.

     
    • Michelle @ The Modernity Project July 25, 2012 Reply
       
       

      Easy jersey, seasonal layering and great accessories – this sounds like comfort dressing at its most fabulous!

       
  6. Denise July 25, 2012 Reply
     
     

    Thanks for the follow up comments Michelle.

     

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  • katie: I think many women's rape stories get twisted by others no matter what they do. Not being believed would be the worst.

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