Dr Liz Byrski is a writer, former journalist and ABC broadcaster. She is the author of six best selling novels including Gang of Four and Last Chance Cafe and the popular memoir Remember Me. Her new non-fiction ebook Getting On: Some Thoughts on Women and Ageing will be available online from 1 June and her next novel - In the Company of Strangers - will be released in September. Liz lectures in writing at Curtin University.









WHAT’S YOUR GREATEST DINNER PARTY DISASTER?
Imagine this. It’s 1966, I’m 22, married for six months and pretending to be perfect wife (this didn’t last long) with a dinner party to entertain my new husband’s business contacts from Switzerland. Moussaka is all the rage and for someone who hates cooking the recipe looks simple. To my amazement I manage to turn out an impressive looking dish, sizzling hot, cheese topping brown and bubbly, smells divine. I am stunned and relieved, my husband even more stunned and relieved. The table looks like the cover of Good Housekeeping, the guests look happy and ravenous. Bursting with domestic pride I confidently carry the moussaka from the kitchen to the dining room, but the Goddess of Domesticity had it in for me when she inspired the idea of rush matting. I trip on the edge of the mat. Moussaka is airborne, and I land flat on my face, inhaling cheese sauce, minced beef, eggplant and sliced potatoes. Moussaka is everywhere - on walls, doors, sideboard, husband and – yes - liberally spattered over guests. Husband not at all impressed, guests think it’s hilarious, fortunately they really enjoyed the bacon and eggs – which one of the wives cooked while I washed moussaka out of my hair.
THINGS MY MOTHER TAUGHT ME
My mother taught me that you don't go out to play until you've finished your work. It's sometimes a pain but I still try to stick to it. She introduced me to the joy of books and music. Taught me never to go to bed without removing my makeup and cleaning my teeth. Showed me how to comb volume 20 peroxide through my hair to lighten it, how to tap dance, and the importance of keeping the seams of my stockings straight. She showed me unconditional love and through that taught me what it means to a child who receives it. She taught me the importance of respect and consideration for others and value of manners. She also told me that if I avoided sitting on stone walls I would never have haemorrhoids - it's the only thing she was wrong about. She died 11 years ago and I still miss her dreadfully.
WHAT THREE THINGS WOULD YOU TAKE TO A DESERT ISLAND?
Well, I hope I'd have my partner with me, not much good at building things but brilliant for conversations, companionship and laughter. Gallons of moisturiser, a crate of those gorgeous chocolate elephants in red and gold wrappers. And an entire boxed set of the books of George Eliot
THE SMELLS THAT MAKE ME REMEMBER…
The scent of orange blossom and freshly mown grass brings back childhood in England and the long, light and blissful evenings of daylight saving. Gauloises cigarettes - trying to be very grown up and sophisticated when I lived in Paris in the sixties. Tea leaves and 4711 Cologne in the cafe my mother regularly took me to for afternoon tea in the 1950s. The smell of the sea on a cold wind, snogging under the pier on Brighton beach. The divine intimacy of a new baby's head - brings back the joy of inhaling the scent of my own beautiful babies now beautiful and in their forties.
WHO ARE YOUR FAVOURITE SINGERS?
Leonard Cohen is always #1 in my chart - a poet with a voice laden with emotion. And then Ella closely followed by Billie Holliday and Rod Stewart. Jessie Norman is a special favourite, Yvonne Kenny, Teddy Tahu Rhodes, and of course Placido Domingo.
LOVED THE BOOK, HATED THE MOVIE!
The Hours - wonderful book but the movie was excruciating. Nicole Kidman ridiculously miscast and wearing a false nose, playing Virginia Woolf as moody, graceless bore. The woman had sparkling wit, incredible talent, and was a rivetting conversationalist, well as being fiercely intelligent. Even Meryl Streep struggled for credibility in this, and the music was so overbearing I wanted to tear my head off. I normally love Phillip Glass but in this production it was unbearable.
WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST JOB?
My very first casual job was washing up for a very wealthy old man who threw a lot of dinner parties. He was lavish with his guests but mean with everything else and I had to do all the greasy pots, pans and plates in cold water. It was truly awful. My first full time job was as a secretary in the scientific section of a major pest control company. Part of the job was feeding the cockroaches and measuring and how much they had eaten during the preceding 24 hours. After that getting a job on the check-in desk with the then British European Airways at Gatwick Airport seemed the height of glamour and luxury, despite the fact that we had to wear winkle-pickers with three inch stiletto heels all day. We used to rub surgical spirit on our feet to harden them so we wouldn't get such terrible blisters.
DO YOU BELIEVE IN A GOD?
I do believe in in a God - one of the higher power variety. I just don't believe in the church. In fact I find organised religion very destructive to faith. I love and am fascinated by human beings but I prefer to believe that there is something greater and wiser than us. I would hate to be without any sort of faith. I find it extraordinarily comforting. It is a constant reminder about how I want to be in the world and a source of strength in hard times.
WHEN WERE YOU MOST SEXY?
Not until my fifties - I agree with Marina Go - it's all about confidence - but I have to say it's been worth waiting for!
MY FAVOURITE CHILDREN’S BOOK CHARACTERS
I just loved Eeyore, the gloomy donkey in the Winnie the Pooh books. I think he must have been the inspiration for many modern crime novels which focus on thoughtful but deeply sad an depressed detectives. From Pooh I graduated to the Famous Five and read the books over and over again - always identifying with Anne, the slightly anal, least adventurous one who would really rather stay home and dust the tent or read a book. Story of my life!
MY BEST DVD BOXED SET
The West Wing without a doubt. I was bereft when it finished and bought the boxed set as soon as it was available. Each time I watch an episode for the third of fourth time I discover something different, and gain a more nuanced understanding of some of those rapid-fire conversations as the characters walk the corridors. CJ's initially tentative relationship with Danny is one of my favourite love stories. My second favourite is The Killing. I love it that the central character is not an emotionally complex, brilliant but infuriating man but an equally emotionally complex, brilliant but infuriating woman.
MY MOST MEMORABLE MEAL
My most memorable meal is banal beyond belief but for me incredibly special. Soft boiled eggs with toast soldiers, lots of butter and a cup of sweet tea. I was seven, so it was 1951 and this was my first meal at home after a week in hospital having my tonsils out. I was supposed to stay in bed and Mum brought this on tray with a little embroidered cloth and a tiny vase of lavender springs. She sat on the bed while I ate it. The food seemed like nectar of the gods, the scent of lavender filled my bedroom and I had my Mum's undivided attention. Pure bliss.